by Andy Kay
June 8, 2013

Break out the whips, chains, and ball gags; a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine this year showed that people who involved themselves in BDSM (acronym for “bondage and discipline,” “dominance and submission,” and “sadism and masochism”) reported higher mental health than their more vanilla peers. Despite past views (and one can see how the false assumption could have been made), BDSM isn’t corrolated with abuse, rape, or mental disorders, past or present. People who take part in the BDSM community were found to be “less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships, and have better overall well-being. [1]

The psychologists who conducted the survey determined that “Kinkier” people showed to have better mental health because they are more aware and communicate better about their desires (sexual or not) and have figured out within themselves what their wants and needs are. Knowing that, they can more easily decipher their partner’s wants and needs and therefore avoid situations that might spawn poor self-esteem or awkward situations in the bedroom or elsewhere. People who fit in that category basically create a more mentally supportive and healthy environment in the bedroom and in their personal lives which is thanks to (in part) their participation and mental preparation for BDSM play. Fetish communities have argued for years that harmless sexual tastes should not considered mental problems or something to be ignored or feared, but rather incorporated into sexual education and discussion as something that can benefit relationships and personal mental health.


Now, that’s not to say that there isn’t a “dangerous” side to BDSM. Approximately 1/3 of Americans say they’ve had a sex related injury, 5% saying it was bad enough to miss work for at least one day. Many people won’t even realize that they’ve injured themselves until later, as sex raises one’s pain tolerance. To avoid these injuries, partners should first establish a safe word and then discuss what they’re comfortable and experienced with. If care is taken, BDSM can be a fun and beneficial experience for both partners [2]. Sex practices can be dangerous and people should always take precautions when experimenting with a new one, however people can get injured or die from a variety of activities. A diving death is not uncommon, nor is a rock climbing death. Even dying during sex isn’t uncommon after a certain age. Like those other activities, all that’s necessary is a little mental and physical preparation and new sexual practices can be helpful for everyone involved.


Let’s be honest, most of us have our kinky side and while most aren’t taking part in public whippings or building their own St. Andrew’s cross, a little biting or a feet feet of soft rope is something most of us can enjoy. If you’re worried about your mental health or relationship, it might be time to introduce some of that to the bedroom. You might be surprised at how you feel the following week. The concept makes sense too, logically. If you take time to open your mind to new things that are meant to take you out of your comfort zone and concurrently make those things more comfortable; its logical to think that that action is bound to help your mental health in some way.

For more info, check out this Youtube vid by a very sexy, scruffy man in a tank top:

Worried about starting your kinky journey to better mental health in real life? Not ready to break out the handcuffs quite yet? Check out our friend’s virtual world where you can head to the dungeon and take part in 3-D animated kinky action from the comfort of your computer chair:




Kyler Moss’s Foreskin Talents from the Raw 2 Parody by Boycrush Studios